Here's your reminder that social media and most things in life are but a highlight reel. We all have our successes, but we all have our struggles.
A lot of the time, we don't get the opportunity to choose what story we're dealt in life. What we do get is the ability to choose what we do with that story. I'm a big believer that every day, we have a choice. We can allow ourselves to be so consumed with others' stories and compare them to our own, or we can allow ourselves to celebrate stories. All stories. All parts of stories. Yes, that includes the parts of our stories that are hard to talk about.
Yes, that includes the parts of our stories that don't make sense. Yes, that includes the parts of our stories that aren't like the stories of others. You can't disregard the parts of your story that have helped build you. You can't throw away the parts that are uncomfortably or messy. Instead, I hope you embrace them. I hope you don't run away.
Future you will be thankful that you didn't. I promise. Realize that little victories are worth celebrating, too. I get so much joy when someone messages me telling me that my work helped them. I've realized that meaning isn't always tied to numbers. The same is true in life.
I hope that you don't invalidate your growth or success because you think it's too small or not important enough. I hope that you don't hide your story because you don't think anyone can learn from it. I'm here to tell you that someone will learn from your story, even if the first person who learns from it is you. I'm here to tell you that your story is enough because you are enough. The little victories are what keep us going.
I hope you celebrate your huge successes. I really, truly do. However, I hope you realize that there's a lot more to life than huge successes.
I hope you realize that people see your growth. More importantly, I hope you see your growth. I hope you see that your story doesn't stop just because one guy couldn't choose you or one employer decided to go a different direction.
I hope you see that your story doesn't stop at one setback or discouragement. Every day, I challenge myself to pick at least one little victory of the day. It's what keeps me looking forward instead of backwards. It's what makes me hold on to hope. It makes every day a celebration, no matter how small. Know that your story has power, but only if you let it have power. I hope that you don't let your current chapter stop you from pursuing the rest of your story.
I hope that you don't let one person or one situation or even one bad day stop you from looking up and moving on to greater things. Your life has a purpose, and your story has power.
Embrace it, even and especially when it's hard. It will be worth it, but you have to keep moving forward. Chase after the good, and allow yourself to reflect when it gets tough. Give in to community, and know that you are capable. Most of all, keep the pen in your hand. Get to it, friend, and keep writing your story. You'll be glad that you did. Politics and Activism How Young Feminists Can Understand And Subvert The Internalized Male Gaze Women's self-commodification, applied through oppression and permission, is an elusive yet sexist characteristic of a laissez-faire society, where women solely exist to be consumed.
Performing for imaginary cameras, you hum and sway. The sensation is absurd. It's in those moments that Margaret Atwood's poetry appears true. Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it's all a male fantasy: that you're strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it.
Even pretending you aren't catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you're unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur. From what context did the male gaze emerge? Obviously, heterosexual male desire is the ever-present subject.
A woman's complex feelings, interesting thoughts, and own sexual ambitions are less important than her male framing. Examples of the male gaze abound in tropes like the "Manic Pixie Dream Girl" or female superheroes who always must be sensual. You can just think of the internalized male gaze as a facet and an outcome of the patriarchy. This concept is problematic, of course, because women may end up placing greater value on how they look than how they feel.
In fact, this misguided step towards sexual equality has colonized and exploited feminism. We should look somewhere else besides mainstream corporations for such intimate solutions in gender equity. We are better off practicing critical reasoning, introspection, and grace. Due to the immersive nature of the U. American social systems, women are victims of and participants in this sort of sexism. Instead of feeling shame, I vow to unlearn what I've been spoon-fed.
If the actions are only benefiting men, my little show must be reassessed. But, if the actions benefit me - or other women - the spectatorship is decidedly less harmful. It is in this way that women can function with the most benefit. If a woman's existence hinges upon the masculine gaze, she then has the ability to manipulate the system in which she is seen, becoming the one who commands this visual economy.
And, obviously, people who identify as women should be in the literal director's seat and metaphorical driver's seat more often. That indisputable fact is what you have in your control.
Photo by Eleonora Patricola on Unsplash. I have found myself thinking this in the past; however, this is simply not true. We can always expand our knowledge, our arena of thought, with more information and experiences. Putting yourself into the easy positions in life may be secure, but it is much harder to grow as a person this way. Instead, they just settle. Instead, I'd like to find myself at an in-between level. I would like to be someone who tries new things and is open to new experiences, just by simply reminding myself to be more open-minded.
If we seek out our own adventures in life, it will help us grow stronger and firmer as people. With our different values and beliefs, I hope and pray that one day we can bring our differences to the table for the betterment of society. For this wave of "betterment" to begin, we must start with open-mindedness. Will Love If they love you, they're not going to care if you didn't get them some expensive diamond necklace or Rolex watch; they just want you. Miami University. Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash.
Let me preface this by saying I am not a bad girlfriend. I am simply a forgetful one. So now here I am, with a little over a week until Valentine's Day with absolutely no idea what to give my boyfriend. Unfortunately, I am a very forgetful person, so this has happened every Valentine's Day in which I had someone to give a gift to. So, for everyone else struggling, here are 14 somewhat last minute gifts to give your significant other this Valentine's Day.
It's a whole list of songs that remind you of them, or maybe it's even got songs they introduced you to. Share the playlist or make it collaborative so that the two of you can see how your relationship grows through music. It doesn't have to be a long and dramatic declaration of love, just something cute to let your S. Go all out with it if you want: decorate it, color on it, and maybe put some cute stickers inside to go with it.
I've written "open when" letters for friends and it is a fantastic way to let them know you love them. Views Read Edit View history. Help Learn to edit Community portal Recent changes Upload file.
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